Happy Birthday to me :)


Hey guys

I’m doing the happy dance; my birthday is in a few days (Team Gemini! 5/27!). I’m excited for year 31! I actually took a detox from social media to catch up with work, school, and to spend time with family.  I highly recommend that people do a social detox from time to time, it was great to “unplug”.  

During this detox period, I realized, how far I have come from the past year. The same time last year I was in a bit of a funk. I was laid off from a new job, and I recently left a seven year job and did not deal with how I felt about leaving in a positive way.   I didn’t think in January 2014, that I would be spending the big 30 figuring out what to do with my life.

Then I had to think about what’s next? Instead of looking aimlessly at social media posts in between sending out resumes, I had to regroup.  I now realize that doing the following throughout the past several months has helped a lot

1. Setting realistic goals - This advice came from my mother (thank you mom). I needed to figure out a plan as to where I saw myself in 5 years, 10 years, etc. I thought about it and started to set some goals and thought about what resources I would need.

2. Meditating - I had the tendency last year to do a lot of overthinking.  Meditation has helped to keep be centered, especially at the start and end of the day.

3. Spending Time Alone  - In between the job search and sending resumes, I spent a lot of time ALONE. I was so accustomed to being with many people; going to events and traveling for work. This was the first time I sat still in YEARS. As a result, I fell in love with the outdoors again; walking around my neighborhood in Bedstuy visiting the local coffee shops.

4. Writing down the things I am grateful for - I started this when doing the 100 Days of HappyChallenge during the summer. Worked wonders :)

5. Taking myself less seriously - I was a little too concerned about how I looked to other people.  The less I did that the more fun I realized I had with the people around me and the more creative I became.

6. Forgiveness - Forgiving yourself is important in order to move forward and release yourself from the past. Still working on this. :)

7. Own Your Shit - pardon my French on this one.    It’s true! Taking responsibility for your own actions. Playing the victim doesn’t get you anywhere.  No one is perfect.

8. Realizing that Happiness is a choice - nuff said!

9. Believing the cliché “Things really do work out” They truly do.

Of course I did not come to these realizations at one time. I have come a long way since last year.  I can honestly say that I am grateful for the setbacks because I know they have made me a better person.  I am Kosi Harris, a work in progress and I am so excited and ready to be 31.  I can truly say that year 30 was a teaching year!

I want to take the time to thank my family and friends for their never-ending encouragement and support this past year.   I am forever grateful.  And, to my readers, thank you for checking in! Hopefully my story can inspire others to keep going and never give up.



Photography by Steve Zak   

Photography by Steve Zak